Sunday, 18 October 2009

42 - Yikes!

I am 42 on tuesday. 42 the answer to Life, the Universe and Everything (according to The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy)

How did that happen, my Mum and Dad were old when they were 42..weren't they?

Who else is 42....(Imagine a 5 minute pause here whilst I go off to Google. This would be the point where you go and make a cup of tea)
OK so it's 10 minutes later just consider yourself lucky I got bored by the letter N.

Benicio Del Toro (this is a good start)
Carrie Ann Moss (her that was Trinity in the Matrix) 
Emily Watson (world renowned British Actress - excellent)
Christopher Judge (Alien off Stargate - look it means something to me, keep your Sci fi geek comments to yourself)
Gordon Ramsey (but he looks so old...UGH)
Helen Chamberlain (she presents the Saturday football thingy on Sky 1)
Henry Cusick (plays the Scottish fella on Lost)
John Barrowman (He can do as much musical theatre as he likes, and he can keep telling himself he is Gay but he will always be Captain Jack to me!)
Kate Garraway (GMTV Lady who can't dance)
Kurt Cobain (well he would be if he was alive and I bet he would be cool, much cooler than being dead, anyway)
Kristen Johnston (From 3rd rock from the sun)
Laura Dern (Do you remember her in Blue Velvet?)
Les Ferdinand (Is he the one who was horrid to Ulrika, I am useless on celebrity gossip!)
Lisa Edelstein (Stern boss lady of House)
Matt LeBlanc (Nice but dim off Friends)
Moon Zappa (pretty sure she is the daughter of Frank)
Nicole Kidman (No explaination required)
Noel Gallagher (the more talented brother of Liam)

OK feel much better now - I am clearly in good company, apart from that Les fella and horrible Mr Ramsey (although his recipe for pannacotta is very good - the book was a present!)

Do you share a year with anyone exciting?

The Picture is me on my 40th doing a Pink thing for Breast Cancer Awareness

A Momentary Lapse in Judgement

A friend of mine recently had a momentary lapse in judgement.

This lapse in judgement has meant I have spent quite a lot of time apologising to people.

My friend created a stupid (and strange and definitely not funny) comment in an email, and hit 'reply all' instead of 'reply'.

In fairness I wouldn't have thought much of the comment had he just hit reply.
Unfortunately by hitting 'reply all' he sent his stupid comment to nearly my entire personal address book (including my 80 year old Mum, people who work for me and some acquaintances as well as close friends).

And although the consequences of this have been difficult, challenging and emotionally draining, it has got me thinking.

This really bothered me, but when I tried to explain this to my friend, he said sorry, but I could see that he didn't really understand (or seem to really care) why I was upset or bothered.

Most people I know live by the motto 'do as you would be done by'. And that's the thing. If I had done to my friend what he did to me 3 things would have happened:

1. I would be mortified

2. I would have apologised - profusely to him and everybody else affected

3. He would have been really angry

So why doesn't he get it - he is an old and close friend, who I know would be up in arms if someone else had done this to me...Has my friendship become something that is such a constant that it's now taken for granted?

So what has happened - I had a couple of sleepless nights, I was angry and quite emotional and said quite a lot of bad words. I spoke to him on the phone and asked him to send an apology out but didn't say the bad words to him. A day later he sent an apology. I tried to tell him how I really felt but did it in such a way that he probably thought it was OK.

So who am I really angry at?

Me, I should have told him how upset he had made me, and all the real consequences of his actions.
Now what?

Probably nothing, we will just move one and I will tuck it away. Let’s hope all these things I tuck away don't make me explode one day.

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