Saturday, 27 August 2016

Cat Person or Mad Cat Lady?

Firstly, apologies..I have been absent for the last month, this is due to a combination of school holiday's, my head is in a funny place and general world upside downy-ness. I will talk about all that another day, however, because today I want to talk about cats.

I am a cat person, I had to ask my friends to stop buying me cat related presents as it became more 'mad cat lady' than cat person.

I admit, I did, by accident, have 4 cats at one point, when I was single...this was not a good look.

How do you have a cat by accident I hear you say? Well, I had two cats, then a friend of mine, who also had two cats temporarily moved out of a house with a garden, to a flat with no garden, so I took his two cats as well, because I am nice like that.

I now have two cats. Tao who is ten and has face cancer, which means my once handsome boy has the look of the elephant cat. Sad (Can't talk about this as there will be tears). And Millie who is about 6 or 7.

Tao - Before the face cancer

A rare moment of both my cats quite close together

Both came from the RSPCA, both had the names they had prior to me having them.

I like most animals, except chickens, can't stand chickens, nasty pecky greedy things - we kept chickens when I was a child and one of my jobs was to feed them - they are pure evil. Unlike the ducks we had, which were lovely, even though they thought they were chickens.

People think I don't like dogs because I like cats - not true. I like other people's dogs, I just don't want to be responsible for picking up warm dog poo with my hand inside a plastic bag, the idea of that makes me want to retch. Happy for other people to do that and for me to go and pet the soft velvety ears of my friends dogs.
This is Penny, my friends dog, one of the many dogs I am friendly with
My biggest gripe though, is about posh cats, you know the ones, that have been bred and aren't moggies. It's not the cats I have an issue with, it's their owners, or specifically the owners of cats who don't let their cats go outside.

The Oxford English defines cats as follows:

 A small domesticated carnivorous mammal with soft fur, a short snout, and retractile claws. It is widely kept as a pet or for catching mice, and many breeds have been developed.
Our cats are domesticated, but they are animals that like to hunt and go outside and chase and kill things. They are independent animals who choose to live with us. Tao currently chooses to live mostly with me, but I know he also spends a significant amount of time about 5 doors up the road.

Imagine if you weren't being allowed out.

To all posh cat owners;

  • Allow your cats out, and don't give me the 'oh he/she doesn't like it' or 'it has been bred out of them' nonsense. It is a cat. You are being cruel. 
  • Don't put your cat on a lead. It is a cat. Get a dog if you want to put something on a lead. They like going for walks with you.
  • And don't even think of saying to me, 'I can't let it out as some one will steal it, as it is such a posh cat'....then you shouldn't have bought such a posh cat. 

OMG. Infuriating.

OK rant over, just for the record, I do quite like a number of 'bred' cats but as there are so many cats available at the RSPCA, I just can't bring myself to buy a posh one.

This is not a sponsored post for the RSPCA I just think they do a great job.

And finally...
This is Millie
She was about 3 when I got her from the RSPCA, for the first few days, she lived under a bookcase. I don't know what happened to her, but she is very nervous of people when they stand up, or walk. She is an incredibly affectionate cat and when you are sitting will come and sit on your lap and look at you like you are the best thing in the world.

Wednesday, 20 July 2016

Face Sweats - Or how can I avoid the Menopause?

I have reached a 'certain age', my body its getting all geared up to having the menopause.

I have face sweats - it is perhaps one of the most horrible disgusting things.There are great droplets of face sweat, my glasses steam up, I can't see.

I do not glow, I do not perspire, I sweat. UGH! My children make this noise 'errrrrr'.

I also feel like I am pre-menstrual most of the time and my brain is functioning at about 75% capacity. That may be just after I have had some wine...

I thought I would read up on the menopause.....OMG.... it is a horror show - don't do it to yourself.

Hair thinning, vaginal atrophy, anxiety, sleep problems, urinary tract 'issues' - dear lord. This can last 3 - 5 years...holy crap!

I am reading all this stuff, and being told this is a normal part of a woman's life and in some cultures it is seen as a sign of women reaching a time of wisdom and respect in their lives. 

Three - Five Years of hideousness!!!!

No, no, no. I am not going to do it. I refuse. Periods where horrible but this sounds much much worse. 

So please could you all send your suggestions of what I am going to do to avoid this completely -  the face sweats are bad enough. Thank you. 

Me and my friends, blissfully unaware of what is ahead of us.




Saturday, 16 July 2016

How do you explain terrorism to your kids?

Every morning, I watch the BBC news and eat my breakfast with my girls. They don't particularly want to watch the news so this encourages them to get ready for school and get going. Which is good.

Every so often a news story grabs them and they are drawn into it, Lola, my 9 year old makes a fart noise every time she hears the name Trump, which is the correct response, and usually there is giggling afterwards.

Heather (13yo) was horrified over Brexit as her school had all voted to remain.

But these terror attacks baffle them. They baffle me,  and the one in Nice really caught their attention as we had been on holiday there last year. Here is how I explained it to them,

'Bad people take advantage of vulnerable people, using religion or whatever motivates that person, to do horrible things. To the vulnerable person they absolutely believe in what they are doing. They think they are doing it for their God or because it is the right thing to do because they have been brainwashed (brief interlude, whilst I explain what brainwashed means) into believing it.'

I then go on to explain that we mustn't show fear to these bad people because if we do they have won.
The only thing we can do is try and help the vulnerable people before the bad people poison their minds with the terrible things they want them to do.

I explained to Heather that her age group were particularly vulnerable, as teenagers can feel very isolated and alone, and people will pray on that, and that it was important for her to talk to me or her friends or teachers if she feels that way.

I don't know if I have explained it well or effectively but I don't want to hide this from them, as I said if we fear it or shy away from it, they have won. In my view if we can educate our children the world may end up in a better place than where it is now.

My thoughts are with the families or all those effected by terror.

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